Remember the last time you got a wedding invitation? So nice, but then there’s one thing everyone usually stresses about… the wedding angpow.
The ultimate question: How much should we give?
So, how much is too much or too little?
1. Malay wedding
A gift of money or products for a Malay wedding is to help the newlywed couple start a family. The value of the gift would depend on how close you are with the family. You can present your monetary blessings in any packet (no specific colour) or a normal envelope will work just as well.
2. Indian wedding
It’s apparently unusual to bring gifts to Indian weddings. Still, envelopes filled with money are always welcome; they’re also used as capital to start their new lives. Make sure the monetary amount given ends with a ‘1’ though, as it signifies the beginning (whereas a ‘0’ signifies the end)!
3. Chinese wedding
For Chinese weddings, the angpow is usually meant to pay for the wedding expenses. This is why the amount would depend on the venue of the wedding.
In Klang Valley, you’re expected to pay a minimum of:
- RM100 for Chinese restaurants
- RM150 for non five-star hotels
- RM200 for five-star hotels and garden weddings
Remember to avoid the number four as its pronunciation in Chinese sounds like ‘death’. Instead, go for the number eight as its pronunciation in Chinese sounds like ‘prosperity’!
What other things should you consider?
Besides the relationship you have with the newlywed couple, there are more considerations to go through before deciding on the final sum.
1. The venue
The calculation for the amount is based on the cost per table. So, if you know how much a table at the venue costs, then you’ll roughly know the amount to give.
2. The personal cost to attend
Bear in mind that your journey to an exotic wedding location involves money too! Although it may sound calculative, we understand that money doesn’t grow on trees. On the flip side, if the couple sponsored or subsidised your trip, why not bless them with a bigger angpow for their kindness and generosity?
3. The amount they gave during your wedding (if you’re married)
It’s pretty straightforward here: Your friend gave you RM100 for your wedding so at his/her wedding, you give RM100. Simple, isn’t it?
4. The wedding registry information on wedding invitation (if any)
What’s this? It’s just a mat salleh culture of asking what they wish to receive for their wedding: furniture vouchers, kitchen items, donation for a honeymoon and so forth.
5. Your financial situation
This is the most important thing to consider because if you can’t afford it, then none of the points above matter!
Are you still expected to pay if you’re not present for the wedding?
Yes and no—some still give because they’re close to the couple, so it’s really up to you. Bear in mind if you cancel last minute, then it would be polite and fair to just give the angpow amount that you initially thought of.
Don’t fret too much—just give what you can and enjoy the celebration!
What was once a helping hand for the married couple’s expenses, has evolved to the mentality that angpows are a MUST to aid the wedding reception’s cost.
At the end of the day, weddings should be celebrations, to have fun and share the joy with the newlyweds. So, just give what you can afford and don’t feel pressured by society!
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